What is a sex therapist? Do you have sex with your clients?
The short answer is no. Sex therapists are licensed behavioral health professionals with special training in human sexuality and sexual health. We do not engage in physical touch of any kind with our clients, and do not demonstrate any sexual acts or techniques. We provide a safe space for individuals with sexual health needs to discuss their situations and find solutions.
What’s the difference between talking to you or my best friend or family?
Therapy should never feel like talking to your best friend or family. While your support system is very important and helpful to your emotional health, therapy is much more focused and intentional than a friendly conversation. I have many years of training in specific techniques and methods to help address your challenges. I also provide a non-judgmental environment for you to speak your mind without fear of hurt feelings or damaged relationships.
Why shouldn’t I just take medication?
While medication can be effective and is sometimes needed, medication alone cannot solve all issues. What medication does is treat the symptoms. Most medications are intended to be taken while you are in therapy, to help provide support and dig deep into the behavioral aspects of your challenges. The most effective treatment is often a combination of medication and therapy, depending on your situation. This is something that we can discuss and assess together on an ongoing basis.
How does it work? What do I have to do in sessions?
Because each person has different issues and goals for therapy, therapy will be different depending on the individual. I tailor my therapeutic approach to your specific needs. We start with getting a thorough history including your childhood, your supports, and your current life situation. After that we will work together to create goals specific to you. We will then work to achieve those goals and will continuously check in to determine if we are moving in the right direction. While I do my best to provide a strong and supportive voice, the process is ultimately guided by you, based on your needs and concerns. I am simply a witness and support in your change process.
How long will it take?
Everyone’s circumstances are unique, as is the amount of time spent in therapy. Working with me means that we will continuously be developing goals and making sure that we are doing what we can to achieve your goals together in a timely manner. Because we will not be limited by insurance companies, we can continue to work together for as little or as long as it takes for you to feel that you are living your best life.
How often do I come to therapy?
This is also guided by your needs and desires, and depends on your circumstances. We can meet as frequently as twice a week, or as infrequently as once per month. As we work together we can determine what is best for you. However, please know that if you struggle with suicidal or high risk thoughts, I may strongly recommend that we meet more frequently until those thoughts feel more manageable for you.
My partner and I are having problems. Should we be in individual counseling or come together?
If you are concerned about your relationship and you would both like to work with me, I would initially work with both of you together. After this work, if one of you would like to continue in individual sessions, I could work with only one of you. It is not helpful to move from individual into couple’s work with the same therapist because of potential trust issues.